思母颂

时间真是不留情的啰！一百天前的现在，我们目送妈妈“离苦得乐”，强忍心中的悲伤，几天来的疲倦全消失了，大伙化悲伤为力量，一心不转，全力以赴的为妈妈助念佛号。一瞬间，佛号声响彻云霄，为寂静的夜增添了几许的庄严。。。一转眼，一百天过去了。

这是我的第五十个部落格了，“特地”安排来悼念妈妈!

妈妈的往生，是突然？或不是？已经不重要了。然而，很肯定的是，让我的人生起了很微妙的转变，更珍惜身边的人，更珍惜自己拥有的一切，更了解生命的意义。。。

最大的转变莫过于我，还有我的家人，吃素了。以前，Dear有时候只煮青菜，然后，汤里加点肉碎。我就会有点“不爽”的问：“又吃素啊？！”哈哈！真想不到自己能够那么“彻底”的改变。反而是Ah Dear不像我那么“彻底”的吃素呢！爸爸也说，还是素食比较好吃啊！

现在，觉得身体更健康，“食量”也变小了，三个多月来，体重已经减轻五公斤。体力却不减当年哩！以前，一直勤劳的做运动，希望能够减肥，效果是有的，但是不大，比较慢。吃素 + 运动 = 最佳的减肥配套，强身健体，经济又实惠哦！

要开始吃素，心理那一关切切实实是最难过的，自己最大的敌人总是自己啊！外面的“诱惑”毕竟太大，太多了！哈，还好我的“定力”够。现在，至少已经做好心理设定，不会轻易的掉入“陷阱”啦！

去年十一月，在妃妃生日的时候，是我们最后一次和妈妈合照，也很刚巧，大姐从香港回来探望爸妈。那时候，一口气做了不少的“气球模型”来“助兴”（还蛮有“创意”的吧？！哈！真不要脸）。然而，觉得遗憾的是，自己和妈妈的合照并不多！！

从右：妈妈，大姐，三姐，小韵（三姐的女儿），四姐，四姐前面为嫣，妃，Dear，于宣（四姐的女儿）

至今，还非常清楚记得除夕清晨发生的事，平时四点多就起床的妈妈被爸爸叫了好久都不起床。我们就以为妈妈前几天被伤口折磨得无法入眠，累坏了，呼呼大睡，就让他继续睡吧！

直到大约七点，通过电话和四姐商量后觉得似有不对，便请家庭医生前来检查。原来妈妈因血糖指数超低，已陷入昏迷了，赶紧唤来救伤车送院吊点滴。如果再慢点的话，恐怕。。。

有点自责，为何警惕性那么低？如果那时候的我够机警的话，现在将会是怎样的情况呢？唉！也许这就是为何至今心情还是迟迟无法平复吧！

前几天，灵感一来，就写了一首诗来悼念妈妈往生百日。写着，写着，“感觉”竟然来了。有一部分是在办公室完成的，急忙躲进厕所，不要像在金马伦般的又在众同事前掉泪啦！哈哈，觉得自己越来越爱流泪了，真受不了！

就把这首诗取名为“思母颂”吧：

时间无情匆匆过，母亲往生已百日
思母之心仍不减，只因母恩重如山
忆母之情谁能知，母爱之大宽如海
吾欲养而亲不在，心如天崩如地裂

遥想吾尚年少时，母亲悉心之护养
虽未要风即得风，全心全意栽培吾
学业有成已归来，创业打拼为民族
孩儿尚未光荣归，母亲却已先离世

与父携手六十载，守护在旁无怨悔
养儿育女心不转，任劳任怨为子女
如今子女略有成，欲让父母享晚年
母亲悄然往生去，怎叫孩儿不痛心

世间无人能避过，生老病死及痛苦
孩儿谨记母教诲，誓为我族编新章
愿母早日登极乐，诸佛菩萨来接引
九品莲花为父母，不退菩萨为伴侣

（注：最后一行转载至“九品莲花”）

AXP’s Company Trip at Cameron Highland ~ Day 3

Farewell to Desa Anthurium

Today, we planned to have breakfast at 8 am, but again, I woke up very early at about 6 am… As today was the last day at Cameron, I sat at the balcony to read magazines, I like this environment, I like loneliness (sometimes), it’s a perfect place for me to cool down.

At about 8 am, I went to help my Dearest to prepare breakfast for our colleagues, 面粉粿。As we were checking out at 10 am, we have another relax time after breakfast. For me, I’d a chat Keith Farmer, our technical adviser cum Le Ting’s husband. We’d a nice chat, and let me practiced talking with Caucasian. I believed we talked for almost an hour. Great!

After that, we left Desa Anthurium Apartments, and went to a garden at Tanah Rata. We had another photos taking session, with Helene, she “taught” us all sort of posts.

Why was Le Ting covering Vivien's mouth?

It seems that we don't know each other, stood so far away with each other

Helene and my dearest

Sam was very funny and shy when Eric hugged him

Kea Farm and Lunch

Soon after enjoying taking photo, we left for Kea Farm to buy vegetables, souvenir and sweet corns. The sweet corn from Cameron Highland is really nice, very juicy, and kernels are big.

By the time we finished shopping, it’s almost 12.30 pm, we had lunch at the restaurant introduced by my brother in Kea Farm.

From left (sitting sequence): Alan, Kenneth, Chi, Sam, me, Dear, Helene

Then, we said good-bye to Cameron Highland and went back to JB. Sam was driving for about 2 hours and felt very tired, and it’s my turn to drive back to JB. We reached our home at 8.30 pm, but poor Sam, reached Pontian at about 10 pm.

Generally, it's very nice to travel with these energetic and enthusiastic youngsters and this is a fruitful trip! Well, we need to continue with our passionate and CREATE value when we are back to daily works.

AXP’s Company Trip at Cameron Highland ~ Day 2

Early in the morning

I really had a bad sleep and woke up at about 5 am, with 2 to 3 hours’ sleep only. No choices, since I’ve waken up and couldn’t fall sleep again, I did exercises, read newspapers and magazines, until breakfast was prepared at about 7 am.

We continued with our meeting at about 9 am. A new management methodology was introduced: “绩效飞轮”, and we also officially launched our core value: CREATE value:

C: Care
R: Responsibility
E: Enthusiasm
A: Ahead
T: Teamwork
E: Excellence

In connection with the introduction of our core value, six banners are hanged at our Corporate Headquarters. Isn’t it very nice?

The meeting ended at about 11.30 am and we moved on to have our lunch at Brinchang town centre. As Cameron is a tourist centre, there are quit a lot of un-ethical shops. Luckily, we had a good host who helped us a lot, including finding good restaurants. Another thing to take note is that we should review their food manual before entering the shop for self-protection.

Boh Tea Plant tour

When we had our lunch, our first stop is Boh Tea Plant. Since today is Sunday, many people started to drive back and we had no choice but trapped in the long traffic queues. That’s not the end of the story, the plant is located about 2 km from the main road, and the road accessing to the plant is so small that, for certain part of the road, it can accommodate one car at a time for both directions, beside the road is cliff. How exciting!! And I was driving Sam’s car. You know how much pressure I had?? Uncountable!

When we reached there, I had a little regret, why we are here? Anyway, we walked to the restaurant and had another wonderful round of gathering, my regret disappeared immediately! Again, the scenery is excellent, with cold wind, how nice if we can live in such a nice environment?


After a round of tea break, we walked back to the parking place via tea plant. I never walked in the tea plants, it’s another great experience! No doubt, our colleagues took lots of photo to keep this sweet memory.


When we were driving back, it’s much more challenging than we came to the plant. Initially, we thought that there won’t be much people driving to the plant as it almost the closing time. Unexpectedly, there are still a lot of cars driving from the opposite direction. The critical part is that, certain part of the road can only accommodate one car for both directions. We were trapped in the jam again!! This time, it’s very, very challenging!! My heart almost jumped out! It’s really torturing me!

We were caught in the jam...

Strawberry farm

Subsequently, we proceeded to a strawberry farm, just beside the Cactus Valley.

Helene silently took this photo... we like it!

We bought some vegetables, and took photos with local fruits and vegetables. At about 5 pm, we drove back to prepare for tonight’s barbecue.

When I reached the apartment, it’s a real relief for me after the “nightmare”!! I just lied on sofa to take a short nap of approximately ½ hour.

Barbecue dinner

At about 7 pm, we went down to prepare for the barbecue.

Vivien and Helene prepared a lots of foods, and there are still a lot of foods left. We had a great time taking lots of photos, thanks to Helene for her brilliant and creative ideas.

See who are the most enthusiastic guys at AXP?

Nice posture right?

This picture, everyone was so serious. And next...

Everyone was acting cute. And next...

Keith was so shy when everyone looked at him...

We were looking at our dreams....?! Yes, our dreams are closer and closer to us...

After that, we went back for another round for craziness. Kenneth was the organiser for the games session. It’s fun, crazy and enjoyable, I never had such a wonderful experience for a long, long time!


At 12 am, we had a surprise for kenneth as 6 July is Kenneth’s birthday, and I did something that was unexpected… see photo below… haha, how crazy was I by carrying Kenneth?


After a night of craziness, we finished our games at about 1 am. One night of sensation, one night of craziness, I believe I couldn’t forget what has happened in this trip!

AXP’s Company Trip at Cameron Highland ~ Day 1

Our trips began…

I never write my blog in English! Since this is our company trip, let me try to write in English, otherwise, my English level may become worsen in no time.

Today, my alarm woke me up at 4 am, that’s right, 4 o’clock in the morning. As usual, I need to do exercise before Sam came to pick us up at about 5 am. Things moved smoothly as we finished our breakfast before 8.30 am at Seremban rest stop.

It's "rare" that four of us could take photo together

After the petrol tank was filled up, it’s my turn to drive in order to let Sam had a good rest as he drove since 4 am. According to our plan, we reached Simpang Pulai rest stop at about 11.15 am. While we were waiting for other colleagues from Kuala Lumpur, we ate fruits and Helene was so excited to take lot of photos by using her new Lumix LX3.

All gals from JB office, isn't it looked like "traffic light" (red, yellow, green)?

After ½ hour, we departed for Kampung Raja at Cameron for lunch. Ken told us that it will take about ½ hour to reach there. Since it was weekend, there are a lot of cars and slow moving vehicles, it’s difficult to overtake at the hilly and sloping road, we took almost 1 ½ hours to reach the place when everyone were so hungry.

It's my turn to drive... Camry. Why was Alice become so tall?!

We had a delicious lunch by spending about RM200 for 15 persons, quit a good bargain thought most of the dishes are vegetables - to suit us (thanks for AXP members' consideration). Ken’s been there for a few times, the lady boss, Apple-jie, know him and she is also from JB. What a coincidence!

When our stomachs were full, we proceeded to our destination. It took around ½ hour to reach Desa Anthurium Apartments, the place that we are going to stay for the next three days. It’s located at about 2 - 3 km from Brinchang town centre towards Tanah Rata town centre.

Picture taken from our apartment, AMAZING view!!

Golfing experience at Cameron Highland

After we have unpacked our luggage, Ken and I decided to play golf at Cameron Highland Golf Course. It’s about 1 -2 km from Brinchang town centre. Currently, the club house is under construction, and thus, the parking place is located adjacent to the club house. There is no clear signboard to the parking place and registration area but luckily we managed to find it without much problems, with our mouth...!

Green fee for this golf course is RM84 per day for weekend, and RM50+ per day for weekday. Indeed, we can play unlimited rounds for the whole day at this fee, it’s value for money, but too bad, we reached there at about 3.45 pm, and we only managed to finish 10 holes notwithstanding we have paid RM84. Thanks to the "slow playing" flight in front of us!

After discussion, we decided to carry our golf bag to save the trolley fee. Not a bad decision indeed. Though it’s a bit hilly, but still manageable, unlike Kluang Country Club, with caddy, I still almost fainted!

Nice scenery at hole 4 with enthusiastic golfer - it's me...

Definitely, scenery at this golf course is awesome, and it feels like playing at Perth as the weather here is very nice. I didn’t even sweat though we walked for 2 ½ hours. Nevertheless, the design of the course is quit messy, with some cross over holes, very confusing, the sense of direction must be very good in order not to play the wrong holes or to the wrong green, and get hit by others from another holes. Generally, it’s another great round of golf although we couldn’t finish 18 holes.

My ball's about 50m from the flag on third shot, with my newly bought smaller bag

Indeed, I felt very sorry to “abandon” our colleagues, especially to extend my apologies to the organisers, Vivien, Helene and Kenneth, and again, I wish to take this opportunity to thank them as well for giving me such a wonderful memory! I owe to them!

While we were out for golfing, other colleagues had games at the apartment, and subsequently, they went to pasar tani at Brinchang town to buy food, see how aunties chose and bargin for fresh food while young girl and guys were waiting patiently.


First night at Cameron

We finished 10 holes at about 6.15 pm, and subsequently, we drove to Brinchang town centre for steamboat dinner. It’s very crowded in town and we could hardly find a parking place, we are considered lucky to find one within 10 minutes.

Yup, for me and Alice, vegan food only but it’s very, very nice to have dinner with all our colleagues. It's so warmth! That’s much more important than the food.

From left, Vivien (my right hand), Wendy (from KL office) and my dearest

At about 9 pm, we had our meeting for sharing of company’s directions, core value, etc. That’s really a very emotional and sensational meeting where everyone “dig out” our hearts and did things that we don’t normally see.

When I started to share a story with them and mentioned about how difficult our parents grew us up and how we should repay them, suddenly, my tears burst out without my control and until I was wordless for few minutes. I didn’t even manage to finish all I want to say… Subsequently, all girls and ladies, and of course, my buddies burst out tears at their turns of sharing.

After my mum passed away, this is the second time I cried in “public”. First time, when we were leaving my mum’s cementary after she was buried. And this is the second time, I really don’t know why as I always tried to control myself and I can make it… until today… I can’t control anymore...

For some people, it maybe funny to cry during meeting. For us at AXP, we care for our people (one of our core value: CARE for customers and our people), even our personal matters, we are willing to share and resolve together.

Yes, at least we know each others more at this perfect environment. Otherwise, how can we strive together? Everyone is so busy at work and don’t have times and moods to speak out from their heart at office. Initially, we planned to spend ½ hour for sharing, but end up to be 3 hours as all of us have so much things to share with others!

At the end of the day, Eric led us to formulate our “Dream Board” of which we wish to achieve in near future. Alice and I come out with 5 “dreams” and I will publish here when the Dream Board is completed. Then, there is no way for me to have excuse of not achieving them!

We ended our meeting at about 12.30 am and decided to continue in the next morning. However, I couldn’t sleep until around 2 am as there are so many things surrounded in my mind… happy things... sad things... enthusiastic things... and ......

新山素食搜寻篇之四（Johor Bahru Vegetarian Food: Episode 4）

金海湾的菜园素之家（已在27/6/2009结束营业）
上个星期六，由于学校有补课，所以我们傍晚才回居銮。接了嫣嫣放学之后，我们便讨论要到哪里用晚餐，裕华园的原味还是五福城的天之雨。原本决定到原味，因为它较靠近大路，方便啦！忽然间，我的脑海闪过在金海湾（Festive Street Mall，Danga Bay）的菜园素之家。

在学校假期里我俩到过两次，它的特点是每天都有不同的套餐，我们曾经吃过炒粿条，素古茶，黄姜饭。由于小瓜还没去过，环境蛮不错的，又不是很不方便，就决定到那里啦！


当我们要点菜的时候，奇怪，怎么没套餐了。侍应生就告诉我们，那天是他们营业的最后一天了，没卖套餐。有点失望！星期五在金山园开了一家新的素食餐馆，感到很开心。隔一天，金海湾的素食餐馆却要结束营业了。


不过，能够了解金海湾的业者的窘境，门可罗雀啊！前两次去光顾，都没什么人的，一，两桌吧！今天，更糟。从我们就坐，到吃完，都没其他顾客。无论如何，我想，这也是个缘分吧！让我们能够在最后一天光顾该店。

小瓜们要吃煮炒，便点了福建米粉面，价格为五令吉。


而我和 Dear，想要吃饭。就点了两碗白饭，一道菜及一道汤。
我们点的“菜”是泰式酸辣鱼，八令吉。辣到 Dear 要命，而对我来说，小儿科啦！鱼被炸过了，所以蛮香脆的，辣中带香。羊角豆稍微过热水，原味还在。吃着吃着，竟然发现“大葱”？！奇怪，怎么素食有“大葱”的。仔细一看，哦，原来不是大葱，是白菜切成丝状，口感及外形都有点像“大葱”，当然，味道一点都不像啦。

另外，我们点了苦瓜汤，价格为六令吉，有苦瓜，蘑菇，木耳，红萝卜，素肉等。味道适中，带一点点的苦。不过，健康还是最重要的。


希望，有新的业者顶下来继续开素食餐馆吧！


为什么素食者要吃仿照荤食的素料呢？
有蛮多的人问我这问题！对我来说，三餐不吃仿照荤食的素料，其实都没问题。

制造商仿照荤食的做法都是为了顺应现代人的根气。从佛教的观点来看，据推算，现在正是所谓的“末法时代”，人们的根气偏低，也很难接受“素食”的概念。往往，“菜边肉”就会慢慢地变成“肉边菜”。

另外，上一次也提过，我们一向来都吃荤食，书本上，报章上，学校里，也告诉我们吃肉的种种“好处”，如，帮助成长，吃肉了才有“力”做工，摄取蛋白质及其他营养等等。若只能吃蔬菜，简直是“天方夜谭”啊！ 我们从小便被灌输吃肉的“重要性”。要改过，不简单啊！

就像“严重”的吸烟者，要他不吸烟，还是要他的命吧！虽然他们知道吸烟的种种坏处，还是很难改过的，吸烟者的数目还是与日俱增。所以，市面上可以看到有戒烟口香糖等的代替品，来帮助人们戒烟，虽然效果有限啦！

仿照荤食的素料也有异曲同工的效果，让荤食者慢慢的适应素食。适应了，其实那只是食物的“外形”而已，已经不重要了。只吃蔬菜，豆腐，豆类产品都没问题啦！

还有，现代的小孩普遍上都被逆宠了，没几个要吃菜的。若要让小孩吃素，当然要想些法子啦！原来吃素也有鸡腿的，鱼肉的，就简单多了！

新山素食搜寻篇之三（Johor Bahru Vegetarian Food: Episode 3）

金山园的佛有缘素食餐厅

注：金山园的佛有缘素食餐厅已经结束营业。

上个星期五早上在看《大柔佛》的时候，“不小心”让我看到了一则广告。因为，通常我只是大概翻看《大柔佛》，很少会仔细的看，尤其是广告。这是一则新张广告，金山园（Taman Impian Emas）开了一家素食餐馆了！

对新山的素食者来说无疑是个“天大”的好消息，因为在新山的素食餐馆的数目真的很有限。记得几个月前，我也在《大柔佛》看到另一家素食餐馆小小的广告 ~ 原味素食苑，下次才介绍吧！



午餐时间，原本要到慈航素食馆打包的。下楼后，就改变主意，决定到这家新素食餐馆光顾，它的店名是 ~ 佛有缘素食餐厅！从马星花园，驾车大约十到十五分钟吧，不算太远。没什么车，只须经过一个红绿灯就到了。

金山园对我来说并不陌生，在那里吃过好几顿，也有一个顾客的办公室在那里，同时也在那里的高尔夫球场打过球。前几年才刚建好的，是后高尔夫球旺盛期少有的新球场。

佛有缘位于 Jalan Impian Emas 2，与 Perodua 同一排，也很靠近金山园有名的包点及点心店。那里的路牌还没被阿窿“霸占”，所以根据报纸上的路名，很快就找到了。

佛有缘有：
早市的经济面，米粉；
午市的经济饭，咸茶，面类；
夜市的煮炒。
经济饭大约有十多种菜式供选择，但分量不是很多。由于出门时间有点迟，到那里大约一点半，菜都卖得七七八八了。

我就选了两样青菜及咕噜肉，加上一杯凉茶，共四块半， 相当合理的啦！下次，有机会到那里的话，一定会再光顾试试其他的食物。

爱地球，来吃素

最近，在我二哥出版的素食食谱里，这么写着：

根据2007年诺贝尔和平奖得主联合国气候变迁研究小组领导印度经济学家 Rajendra Pachauri 在巴黎记者会上公开呼吁：“不吃肉，骑脚踏车，少消费，就可以协助遏止全球暖化。”

为什么不吃肉可以协助遏止全球暖化？

原来每生产一公斤的肉，畜牧必须吃下七公斤的谷物。每生产一公斤的牛肉等于排放36.4 公斤二氧化碳。如果我们三餐中其中一餐吃素，一个人的碳排放量会减少0.78 公斤的二氧化碳。持续吃素一年相等于种82 颗树，何乐不为？
如果以30亿人口做计算（大约是世界人口的 45%），那么就是246，000，000，000 颗树了!
有一部荷兰出产的影片， Meat the Truth， 提供了以下的数据：

- 每头牛一年所排放的二氧化碳，相当于一辆汽车行驶70，000 公里的排放量。
- 素食者即使开 Hummer 休旅车，也比肉食者骑脚踏车还要环保。
- 所有荷兰人如果每周一天不吃肉，就可达到荷兰政府希望家家户户一年所减少的二氧化碳排放量目标。
- 南美洲约有 400，000，000 公顷的黄豆作物是种给牛吃的；如果是提供给人类食用，则只需 25，000，000 公顷就可以满足全世界所需。（区区的 6.25% 罢了哦！畜牧从业者也就不会澜砍伐森林以应付需求了。）
- 如果所有的美国人每周有一天不吃肉，那么一年将减少的温室气体排放量是 99，600，000 吨，相等于 19，200，000 辆汽车的排放量。（若以同等的比例用在大马，那是相等于 1，728，000 辆汽车的排放量。）

下面两段是转摘自中国某网站：

根据美国太空总署 （NASA）的 SOS 警告：北极冰川将在2012年全部融化！然而，值得庆幸的是，NASA 首席气候学家 James Hansen 指出：“我们虽已过了引爆点，但并未到达无法挽回的地步，我们还能扭转大局，但必需立即改变方向，采取行动！”

我们必须要拯救地球，这样我们至少能居住下去。如果南、北极的冰层完全融化，海洋将暖化，海底气体将会释放出来，我们全部都将因此而中毒致死。必须改变我们的生活方式，否则将会太晚。
好惊人的数据啊！要做出那么“重大”的改变，切切实实，真的真的很不容易！尤其是我们一向来都这么做了，书本上，报章上，学校里，也告诉我们吃肉的种种“好处”，如，帮助成长（我女儿的科学书教的），吃肉了才有“力”做工嘛，能够从中摄取蛋白质及其他营养等等的谜思。
哈哈，吃素了，我还是那么有力打高尔夫球，走了6，7 公里的路都没问题哩。体力和以前都没多大的分别。体重也已经减低到 BMI 的 Normal 的水平，更健康了！

对我而言，是一个因缘吧！几件事碰在一起，造就了我茹素的决心。但是，一个人，或一小撮人的力量始终有限啊！！

无可否认，工业的二氧化碳排放量是温室效应的其中最大的“罪魁祸首”。然而，那也是人们的需求所导致的啊！救地球，是要所有的人一起努力的，为何不从自己开始呢？

自认我是个没有很大影响力的人，但是，希望我这小小的绵力能够有一丁点的帮助吧！

你相信因果吗？你相信人会有来世吗？

如果不相信的话，为了我们的后代，为了我们唯一的一个地球，唯一的一个家，大家都付出一点绵力，一起努力来救救这个地球吧！

如果相信因果的话，别等了，今天就开始改变，别让我们的来世继续的受苦，也别让我们再造恶业，让自己“有机会”堕入三恶道！

久违了的好消息

球场新体验

由于我的 golf buddy，阿田手扭伤了，医生劝告他暂时别挥杆，所以阔别高尔夫球场好几个星期，今天终于又能够去享受大自然了。我的“兼职” golf buddy，阿水约了我还有几年不见的老友，阿 Keng，到居銮丰盛港路三英里军营里的球场打球。为了不让自己扭伤，通常都一定要做至少半个小时的热身运动。所以，早上五点多就起床了。

阿 Keng 是我在中学时候，参加男童军认识的好友。曾经一起共患难，一起代表母校到外地参加过不少次的步操比赛，得了不少次的亚军，冠军却常常与我们擦肩而过。离开母校后，开始时还有联络，到新山工作后就甚少联络，至少有好几年没见面了。最近在阿田口中，得知阿 Keng 也是个golfer，就这样以球会友啦！

这球场也是步行的，不过相当的平坦，走起来不像居銮高尔夫球俱乐部那般的吃力。拉了个 trolley， 一边打球，一边聊天，还蛮悠闲的！

阿 Keng 及阿水步行在长达602 米的第八洞

对于要求高的 golfer 来说，也许会对这球场“不削一顾”吧！这里的草是一般的“牛草”，分不出那里是球道，那里是杂草区，因为有些球道的草很长，好像在杂草区打球一样。果岭的草也很长，要死命大力的推球才会动。不过，它具挑战的一点是：果岭的面积很小，要成功的 green in regulation 需要非常的精确，不简单。价格方面，蛮便宜的啰，周末的果岭费为三十五令吉，trolley 费五令吉，就能够打十八个洞了。对我来说，OK 啦！有机会，会再次光顾的。


久违了的好消息

今天晚上回到新山后，从保险代理员手中接过了我期待已久的医药保单，心中的大石终于可以放下了！

大约两年前，我以前买的医药保单没卖了，该全马最大的保险公司便写信通知及要求我另买一份，唉，人的惰性啦，错过了更新的日期。结果，只好重新申请。由于那时候，我的幽门螺旋菌的指数超标，被拒保了！

没办法，根据医生的建议，服食了一个星期的药物后，等待了几个月，幽门螺旋菌的指数恢复正常了。便又再次提出申请，却又碰钉。这次，麻烦较大了，被要求做更多及更仔细的医药检查。虽然幽门螺旋菌的指数没问题，却又有另一较麻烦的问题。。。记得大约九年前，到深圳的某“景点” 旅行时，有个医师已经叫我要注意。

唉！没办法啦，碰上了，就得去面对它吧！参考了蛮多的网站，都说要非常小心，要改变一些生活方式等等。根据临床，大多数的病例只能减缓“恶化”，很难能够好转。但是，我想，一却都会有例外的，又不是什么世纪绝症的，正确的心态最重要！

虽然那是我非常信任及忠诚的保险公司，没办法啦！东家不接受，就到西家吧！刚好，我的邻居是本地最大保险公司的代理员。谈到了，她就叫我试试看。不久后，就收到好消息了。今天，拿到了保单，心情是很难形容的啰！毕竟，以我现在的情况，要是住院了没保险，是蛮头痛的。。。

外国的月亮真的比较圆吗？

最近，“移民”二字在我耳边回荡了好多回。对那些已经或已准备就绪移民的人来说，我想他们决定“离乡背井”，“背弃家园”的原因应该不外教育制度，政治格局及政策，就业前景及“钱景”，国家及个人的竞争力等的考量吧！

几个月前，二哥和我谈到这课题，还没有很强烈的感觉。我告诉他，我们计划当公司大举进攻邻国市场时，那可能是一个很好的时机“移民”！

之后，它又接二连三的徘徊在我的耳边，邮箱，信箱。。。直到我从Perth 回来之后，就开始问自己，外国的月亮真的比较圆吗？表面上看来，似乎，好像比较圆喔！

首先，教育制度。我想大家都不会反对这里和邻国的教育都是倾向填鸭式的，也许邻国没那么严重，但成绩至上是不相上下的，也许有过之而无不及。父母疲于奔波充当司机，送孩子这里补，那里补，补到孩子的脑袋反而变成空荡荡的，童年只有书本为伴，然而一点内涵都没有！

孩子潜意识似乎会觉得只要成绩好，什么都办得到，呜呼哀哉！书本的“知识”好深，好难懂啊！然而，却对日趋严重的犯罪率没有丝毫的帮助。

虽然我们终究敌不过“潮流”让妃妃补习，要出污泥而不染，不简单！不过我们只让她进修较“重要”的华文及马来文，其他的，就由Ah Dear 还有自己来了。嫣嫣呢，就没上补习。她甚至很好奇地问 Ah Dear ：“妈咪，我不必补习的吗？”哈哈！

当妃妃要上小一时，我们挣扎了好久、好久。。。到底要让她们上华小，还是home schooling ？

某home schooling 的校长很有诚意且语重心长的告诉我们他们的教育理念，重点在于性格朔造（character building），因才施教，双向及平衡的教育等。这确确实实，非常的重要。难怪有越来越多的私立学校开办了，父母也愿意洒金送孩子进入私立学校。然而，我们最后还是挡不住内心对华教的执著及坚持。

对于他们的成绩，我们其实并不太在意。Dilemma 的是我们却希望他们能够建立自信心，那不就等于“利害”念书吗？！不过，还是有点不同的。考试除了靠“实力”，还要靠临场表现，成绩也不一定代表一个人真正的实力及能力！

这次，妃妃在班上得了第二名。感到高兴是肯定的，毕竟大家都付出了非常大的努力。高兴之余，更重要的是要让她看清楚背后的意义，不能本末倒置。还有，不要成为成绩的奴隶！

说回来，据说老外的教育制度着重在性格朔造，教育孩子如何钓鱼，即决绝问题的方法，而非读死书。在这资讯爆炸的年代，要如何寻找及吸纳真确的知识是首要的。以前在纽西兰的时候，发现那些老外都不像我们那般的“勤劳”，读书的方法与我们不同，勇于发问及回答问题，等等。。。

另外，至于政治格局及政策，不说大家也能体会到吧？！也许有人会说，到外国，不是成了二等公民吗？对我而言，在这里似乎没什么分别的啰！不觉得吗？

以学生来说，在外国，有好成绩的人，应该不会进不到大学，而是让大学抢的吧？那里会像这里找议员帮忙的，那里“求”部长，还要无奈的登报寻方问法，稀有啊！

现在的竞争力与日俱增，有些“大人物”似乎还未体会到它的重要性及迫切性。却一再地提出一些“世界级”的白象计划及沉迷于政治脚力。2020 宏愿？唉，也许2200 吧？！还是点到就好，要不我的部落各可能会被评级为PA级！

外国的月亮真的比较圆吗？再一次问一问自己。看看下一张照片。。。也不一定很圆哩！哈哈！

“移民”是个不简单的问题，牵涉太多太多，要考虑很多很多的问题。比如，如果找不到工作，储蓄能够让你活多久？生活水平，购买力如何？孩子能够适应吗？能够承担的文化冲击程度到那里？能确保在人生地不熟及高竞争力的国家混到饭吃吗（虽然我们的职业是急需的）？这里的家人呢？啊，这是重点！或许前面的问题都一一决绝了，这一点会让我完全打消念头。。。！

也许命中有定吧！以前，曾经两度尝试要到邻国，一次被拒于门外了，一次嫌薪水太少，不去了。另外，在2003 年，曾打算参与DKC 为期18个月的国际交换计划，被加拿大某城市的分行面试。起初，该分行不录取我。几个月后，憋来好消息，被录取了。可是，收到吉隆坡负责此计划的合伙人的电话当天，是我在 DKC 的最后第三天，就谢绝了！然而，到今天，不曾后悔！塞翁失马，焉知非福？！

Anyway，keep in view 吧！还有十年的时间让我作决定！

有时候，我们觉得我们正在改变自己的命运，或能够掌握自己的命运的方向。然而，那可能就是你原本的命运啊，who knows？成功的人，努力了得到佳绩，或许他的命该如此呢？！有些人不管多努力，还是没得到他所想要的，是他的命吗？

真正要改变自己的命运或让自己有限的生命更有意义，应该要及时行善，不要说现在没钱，有钱了才行善吧！要了解，一个人在困境中行善比有钱了大事行善的功德大得多多哦！

很多人认为行善就是要出钱或出力，其实并不然！

加油吧，为营造更美好的人间！